From an excellent book, The Marriage You’ve Always Wanted, by Gary Chapman. 

Jill walked into my office with a slight smile on her face. After we exchanged greetings I asked the question, “And what is on your mind today?”  At that point, the smile departed and she started crying.

“I don’t know,” she said, “There are so many things. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed. It’s my marriage.  Bob and I can’t seem to understand each other. We spend a lot of time arguing. Some days I feel like giving up.”

“What are the issues over which you argue?” I asked.

“Lots of things,” she said. “I just don’t feel that Bob is willing to meet me halfway. . .”

If you’ve felt like giving up on your marriage, or if you feel like you may never be happy in a marriage relationship, listen up.  There is hope!  A few paragraphs later, in this same book, Gary Chapman writes, “My spouse does not change, and therefore I am destined to misery. Do not believe it! Your marriage can improve and improvement can begin today, regardless of your partner’s attitude.”

I suggest that you go to my resource page and click on the videos and listen to the audio and then look at the books that are suggested there (as well as two different ones below).  There is one called, I Don’t Want a Divorce.  I suggest reading a good book.  I also have some very good stuff in my blog posts.  Especially, don’t miss the blog post called, Introduction.  

Also, there is a video on this page below by The Smalley Institute that you may like.