Mature Love is What A Marriage Needs
Instead of the traditional vows, which are, “till death do us part,” these days more and more weddings start a marriage with the phrase, “as long as we both shall love.” One of the problems with this is that many people believe that. . .
“Love is a romantic feeling.”
Romantic feelings are nice, of course, when they are there. But romantic feelings come and go like a feather in the wind.
A more mature kind of love is honoring and cherishing someone.
This kind of love, honoring and cherishing, can be done whenever a person chooses. A marriage cannot survive for the long-term based on a loving feeling that comes and goes, as romance does. But rather, marriages that last must be based on a more mature love. This kind of love includes things like, “for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.”
Mature love is based on a decision to be committed to the welfare of another person.
In marriage, this kind of commitment means a number of things. For starters, this kind of commitment means:
- Sexual Faithfulness
- Not Having an Emotional Affair with Another Person.
- Not spending excessive time, thought, or energy on something that causes your spouse to feel neglected, instead of cherished.
This kind of committed love must translate into giving of one’s time and energy and making frequent sacrifices for the benefit of the relationship.
Anything less is a relationship that is for the gratification of one’s own needs and desires, which is obviously based in selfishness. Many marriages start out with a high percentage of this kind of selfishness, but the survival of the marriage requires that at least one of the two move significantly in the direction of real committed love that includes sacrifice on a regular basis. Of course it will not be a healthy and Beautiful Marriage until both spouses take on this mature kind of love.